About twenty five odd years ago, when I was in college, I remember having a conversation with some friends. We were asking each other, what is it that we most want? One of my friends said "I want to have lots of money." I remember my response. I said "I want to be powerful." My rationale was that if I had the power and influence over others then, I could achieve anything I wanted.
Over the years, I have most certainly tried to control people but, it has never worked. I have realised that the power that I sought was not about controlling others, it is about believing in myself and doing the right thing according to my moral/spiritual compass. The power is that I know that I can be who I want to be, that I can only control myself and that I trust that others know what to do with themselves.
I know now that I can't make people do things or that I can't solve their problems, I don't need to. Everyone has that strength within them to find their own solutions.
My role is to be a guide to those who need my support, to help when asked or simply wish them well. I cheer them as they accomplish their goals but, I also like to remind them at that point that they did it themselves. The power is within them. They are powerful beyond their imagination.
So, if I were to have that conversation again with my friends about what I want the most, I would say "I know that I can be anything I want to be. This is power and I have that."