One of the most important ways that we can look after ourselves is by learning to say No to things that don’t really matter so much to us on our life journey.
You may be thinking you are saying Yes to Life by saying Yes to many things that come your way. It could be an invitation to a dinner, an opportunity to go on a holiday with a friend. The question is, are you true to yourself when you say Yes. Are you saying Yes because you enjoy dining with the people who have invited you or you saying Yes because you feel obligated?
If you feel your time would be better spent doing something else other than going to dinner, then you are right. Or do you feel excited about that dinner invitation? Life provides us with many opportunities – some of them are things we want to experience; some of them that we don’t feel inclined to do but feel we will let down others by not embracing the opportunity. How many times have we all done the latter? Just because we feel obligated, we take on things that do not support us on our journey of being true to ourselves. This may be at work where you are asked to take on an additional assignment when your day is already full with projects that are in full swing.
When we don’t feel good about doing something, we are not only doing a dis-service to ourselves but also to those who are near and dear to us. When we do something that we don’t want to, we usually end up in a foul mood and that feeling spreads like wild fire within ourselves and transfers to our families.
Saying No is hard for most of us. But we can learn how to say No to things that don’t really matter to us. You can start with little things like declining invitations to coffee or dinner if you don’t feel right about it. This will not make us bad. On the contrary, Life is always about choices and this is a choice we can make to feel good. It’s important to check in with the “feeling” side within us now and then and say NO to things that don’t matter to us so as to not feel overwhelmed with what is in front of us.